I’ve been mulling writing something about this topic and debate for awhile now.
This isn’t it. It’s just what I wound up writing when I posted this in my Weekly Link Round Up. It’s particularly relevant for me right now because I’ve two friends getting married soon who are heterosexual, yet not Christians (I think they would describe themselves as pagan, at least on occasion), in a church with a minister. I volunteered to make sure his relatives up north could watch the wedding live (I was grateful that my friends and family in Australia were able to see my wedding here). To be honest that offer was instinctive, because it was something I could do for them (I don’t know what sort of present we can afford), but I desire to love and serve them, and part of that is caring for them and giving them resources that helped my wife and I prepare for our marriage, and serving them as I can during their ceremony. They and their friends know my beliefs, and I see this as an appropriate way to exemplify His love in front of them, rather than condemning the marriage as un-Biblical.
I think I agree with the above two articles,at least in their sentiment. I would write a full post on the matter but I think I would be a little out if my depth. To me a wedding is much less ‘legitimate’ in the Bible sense if the parties are not claiming to be Christians. And Corinthians says we are not to judge those outside the body – so if they’re not claiming Christ, how is there an issue? Admittedly weddings are a Christian rite, and that makes them more complex as an issue for those performing it, but providers of flowers, food etc? If I never served someone at Wal-Mart or at a hospital because of their sin, I wouldn’t have anyone to serve. Jesus served sinners. It’s complicated, but I think issue is indeed being made out of one element of society when it should be made of a range, if it should be made at all.
Possibly a more significant issue that maybe should have been addressed decades ago is the right of anyone not fitting Biblical criteria for marriage being permitted a wedding. We don’t let professed Hindus and atheists get baptised, and no Imam is going to let an atheist preach in his mosque, so why do we allow openly non-Christian/sinful weddings to take place in Churches? As a society we’ve lost the sanctity of the institution already, so why make an issue when everybody wants in, is it because they no longer fit our stereotype? I think that the lukewarmness and sin already permitted and tolerated by many congregations gives them little basis to single out specific examples that they hold prejudice against.