marriage

You and Me Forever – free audiobook download from christianaudio.com

You and Me Forever  - free audiobook download from christianaudio.com until Feb 12thFound this pleasent surprise in my inbox this morning: christianaudio.com are giving away the mp3 audiobook of Francis and Lisa Chan’s book You and Me Forever: Marriage in the Light of Eternity. All they ask is an email address and signup to their newsletter.
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Old New Trek

Now I’ve finished watching, here’s what I think…

When I get into a book or movie series, well, I tend to consume it. Right now it’s midnight, and although I am about to pause my second film of the evening, First Contact, and go to bed, I’m realising that I’m going to be watching a few more movies in the next few days…

Links of the week March 2-8

 

 Here’s the post I am finally getting to. Congratulations to the happy couple!

 

The audacious rescue plan that might have saved space shuttle Columbia – The untold story of the rescue mission that could have been NASA’s finest hour
It would have been something special had this gone ahead. Might have inspired a few folks and even saved NASA’s manned program. Or at least spun off a great movie.

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I’m really not ready or qualified to write about this…

I love my wife, but am somewhat irritated by today: The obligatory St Valentine’s Day post

St Valentine’s day has oft annoyed me. For starters, it’s Saint Valentine’s day, but noone seems to remember this. That’s just a pet peeve, I know, but it gets to me every year, for some reason. We don’t forget a month later that St Patrick was a saint. Admittedly, little is known about the original Valentinus, except that several people with the name were martyred, and his feast day was fixed as Feb 14th on the Anglican, Lutheran, and used to be in the Catholic calendars, with the Eastern Orthodox Church celebrating the feast later in the year. Interestingly, the Catholic Church removed it from the calendar because little was known about him, and presumably the lack of spiritual meaning associated with the feast’s modern celebration. The day was first associated with romantic love by Chaucer in the middle ages, and the modern celebration with cards etc dates only back to the 18th and 19th centuries, where one can see the seeds of the first ridiculously commercialised holiday in America. Even with the purported purpose, I think we often miss the point. Men feel under obligation and pressure (so the expression of love is less natural and more forced), women can feel entitled or wind up disappointed from possibly unrealistic expectations, for some the day is just a depressing reminder, and others are just trying to get laid.

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The happiest couples…use humour when fighting?!?

Riiiiight…if I use or show humour (and if I look amused, wow) when we’re having an argument…well we’re having a whole lot more argument!

                    Other than that, I more or less agree. I mean, we have a child, and I think we’re closer and happier since he’s been along, albeit tired and busier. I don’t have a degree (despite several years of university…long story of an eternal student, in school or not), and I don’t work because I’m caring for our son. But I’ll agree with (I think) everything else. More sex = happier and more peaceful. I’d add that fighting is important (if we don’t fight we don’t sort out the issue we’re not fighting about, and it doesn’t get resolved) – and fighting ‘well’ is more important. I think we’re still happier, after more than two years, than before we were wed, but a kid definitely throws a strain. I think that we’re closer and happier since he’s been here, in spite of the added exhaustion, stress and reduced freedom (it’s a paradox, I know). Actually, I think it’s been all the tough experiences we’ve been through together, distance, waiting on visas, very different style families, churches and cultures…we’ve had to do the talking during the distance and working through the differences, that we’re the closer and stronger for it. And our faith, mainly God, and His grace. A lot of grace. And then some more.

How do you feel your experience of marriage compares to the graphic?